tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post6025192106935716822..comments2023-05-12T04:17:48.058-05:00Comments on Journey to Naomi: Naomihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-44732013250128783072007-02-28T01:15:00.000-06:002007-02-28T01:15:00.000-06:00Thanks, Naomi. Yeah, all pretty good actually, reg...Thanks, Naomi. Yeah, all pretty good actually, regardless of all the "stuff" :)Alinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715176905499669530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-57320282527645047782007-02-26T08:37:00.000-06:002007-02-26T08:37:00.000-06:00You're right, Alina. I'm sorry I've been away for...You're right, Alina. I'm sorry I've been away for so long. I've just been dealing with "stuff."<BR/><BR/>Thanks for caring. I haven't given up my blog. I hope all is well with you.Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-88984495228616505222007-02-23T00:22:00.000-06:002007-02-23T00:22:00.000-06:00Hmm, Naomi, I am sure we have different definition...Hmm, Naomi, I am sure we have different definitions for " a couple of days" :D How's everything? Ok I hope.Alinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715176905499669530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-87796503503061423772007-02-10T18:04:00.000-06:002007-02-10T18:04:00.000-06:00Hi Alina! Where would I be without my "nagging" f...Hi Alina! Where would I be without my "nagging" friend?? :)<BR/><BR/>Yes, this site needs a new post. Perhaps I'll get it up within the next couple of days. I've been a bit distracted lately.<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for the reminder. You may nag me anytime. :)Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-90437925081455085812007-02-09T01:57:00.000-06:002007-02-09T01:57:00.000-06:00Hi, Naomi, just stopping by to see how you are doi...Hi, Naomi, just stopping by to see how you are doing. Hope everything is great and your next post is on the way. I've been pretty caught up in my exams, but now that I have the last one tomorrow, I am back at nagging you with the always annoying "when's the next post? is it ready yet?" (personal interpretation of the guru donkey saying "Are we there yet?")Alinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715176905499669530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-51958382807866192292007-02-07T15:14:00.000-06:002007-02-07T15:14:00.000-06:00Thank you so much for caring, EXSENO. Your encour...Thank you so much for caring, EXSENO. Your encouragement means a lot to me. :)Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-30502585987713889852007-02-07T13:34:00.000-06:002007-02-07T13:34:00.000-06:00I'm so glad that your daughter is doing well. Tha...I'm so glad that your daughter is doing well. That is always a parents biggest concern. It all sounds good Naomi. You go girl I'm right here cheering you on.EXSENOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13439855607574342872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-40279270323869076822007-02-04T20:12:00.000-06:002007-02-04T20:12:00.000-06:00B, thank you for some very important insight into ...B, thank you for some very important insight into marriages - arranged and "North American style." Also, I'm glad you pointed out that there are always two sides.Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-16367829497822612282007-02-04T17:07:00.000-06:002007-02-04T17:07:00.000-06:00Hi Naomi
Thanks for visiting my blog
regarding t...Hi Naomi<br /><br />Thanks for visiting my blog<br /><br />regarding the post- I have never heard about this before. I work in psych and I cannot tell you how many woman and men end up on my unit because of arranged marriages. They have left their families to move to Canada and are treated poorly by the family and spouse once they get here. with the lack of social support resulting in self harm and depression. It's not always positive infact sometimes it's heart breaking what I see. one woman once jumped off a bridge because she was so distraught and hopeless because of the cultural changes and abuse. Sometimes when they get here the men don't want them anymore- it's very sad.<br />There is always two sides. and also cultural factors of course. and yes I agree us North American's "change cars" quite frequentlyBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05916455093658658503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-74303463213777556852007-02-04T01:28:00.000-06:002007-02-04T01:28:00.000-06:00EXSENO, like you, I am aware that arranged marriag...EXSENO, like you, I am aware that arranged marriages continue to exist in many cultures. A friend and I have had some conversations about these marriages.<br /><br />Thanks for asking about my family and me. I've been looking for some places to stay. I'm considering taking a second job. <br /><br />My daughter completed her high school graduation requirements in December. I am so proud of her! She decided to remain in high school for the final semester rather than graduate early. She is making some final decisions about college.<br /><br />The baby is a year old now. He's still a happy, healthy baby. My daugther celebrated her birthday a couple of weeks ago.<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderful week!Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-6767547328480852842007-02-03T07:54:00.000-06:002007-02-03T07:54:00.000-06:00Naomi,
I'm afraid that arranged marriages are not ...Naomi,<br />I'm afraid that arranged marriages are not exclusive to the middle east. They also exsist in other parts of the world. Unfortunately they sometimes work out better for the man then for the woman. The Greeks practiced a form of arranged marriage for years.<br />By the way how are you doing? How's it going?EXSENOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13439855607574342872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-20013268399000066912007-01-30T09:25:00.000-06:002007-01-30T09:25:00.000-06:00Sidhusaaheb, I agree. Marriage should be a lifelo...Sidhusaaheb, I agree. Marriage should be a lifelong commitment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-84992552034916083932007-01-29T11:30:00.000-06:002007-01-29T11:30:00.000-06:00I do not agree with the kind of marriage described...I do not agree with the kind of marriage described in this piece.<br /><br />I do not agree either, with the state of marriage in the West, where it is said (a bit of an exaggeration though, perhaps) that people change their cars every year and their spouses every other year. <br /><br />The casualty, in both cases, is the family unit, at the cost of wholesome development of individuals and, hence, society.<br /><br />I believe that, universally, marriage should be about life-long commitment.Sidhusaahebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08428201823375343016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-10548082677881168312007-01-22T22:14:00.000-06:002007-01-22T22:14:00.000-06:00I was very surprised to see this article in Washin...I was very surprised to see this article in Washington Post and then lifted by Dawn.com at the start of Muharram - a month of mourning for entire Muslim Umma due to what happened to the progny of the Prophet Hazrat Muhammad (Peace be upon him) some 1400 years ago. <br /> <br />Different sects interpret this issue differently. Touching this subject at the start when one sect is mourning is very in appropriate.<br /> <br />Whereas I leave the issue to the experts, I believe what ever our last Prophet (PBUH) has said is good for all the times to come, whatsoever.<br /> <br />One more thing, looking around one finds lots of waywardnes. This is one of the best solutions for the prepatuatity of humanity where every one will know who is the father? No?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-58554372095212679962007-01-22T22:07:00.000-06:002007-01-22T22:07:00.000-06:00Alina, I think you bring up several valid points -...Alina, I think you bring up several valid points - certainly issues worthy of discussion.<br /><br />I realize that as an American woman, I may not fully understand certain aspects of Muslim culture. But it seems to me that one universal aspect of marriage is the sense of commitment and unconditonal love.<br /><br />Obviously, some men (and women, perhaps) feel differently. Like you, I'd like to know why a system is not in place that allows divorced or widowed women to work so that they can support themselves.<br /><br />Amre, thank you for your contribution. It was interesting.<br /><br />In doing my research on this post, I ran across a story in the Arab News that ran last year. The report says that a group of Saudis had been deported from Indonesia for running a mutaa marriage racket. To read the news story, click <a href="http://www.arabnews.com/?page=1§ion=0&article=85970&d=3&m=8&y=2006">here</a>.<br /><br />Roora, I really like how you describe marriage. The best part, I think, is this: "Building a family and having and feeling the tranquility that God had put in marriage."Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-57298403730075878222007-01-22T13:52:00.000-06:002007-01-22T13:52:00.000-06:00I dont know much about mutaa and misyar marriages ...I dont know much about mutaa and misyar marriages <br /><br />But yet so far marriage is more than just feeding the one's instincts. It is more about compassion and mercy. Building a family and having and feeling the tranquility that God had put in marriage.roorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07973984567493121639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-81223263743475040052007-01-22T05:31:00.000-06:002007-01-22T05:31:00.000-06:00well, Naomi mutaa marriage(pleasure) is not Arabi...well, Naomi mutaa marriage(pleasure) is not Arabic in any way,it is basically a very strange iranian or persian habit!<br /><br />it is only practiced by shiaa muslims. Here i would like to say that shiism is structurally linked to Persian nationalism as it was nourished in Persia(Iran) as a way of escaping the Arab hegemony under the cloack of sunni IslamG.Garhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16573287809747571814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-34290509033365222732007-01-22T03:48:00.000-06:002007-01-22T03:48:00.000-06:00I read what you linked to on this type of marriage...I read what you linked to on this type of marriages. I think they are a wrong way to make women more independent and separate economic roles. Using them for extramarital sex like that feels a bit wrong. You want to empower women, then let them work to support themselves. As for no strings attached for women who were not married before, I think it's a way to take advantage of them and ruin future chances of a real marriage. <br /><br />If you want sexual freedom, that don't require marriage. But don't hide it behind some form of arrangement. <br /><br />This is how I see it. Great post Naomi, I had no idea about these practices!Alinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715176905499669530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-30543715171569314922007-01-21T19:55:00.000-06:002007-01-21T19:55:00.000-06:00Doshar, it's so good to hear from you. "Mercy and...Doshar, it's so good to hear from you. "Mercy and compassion between two partners." I like how you worded that.<br /><br />Thank you for your kind words about my site. I like yours. I hope you will stop by from time to time.Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308908115384291503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33145745.post-10760301351939261012007-01-21T14:42:00.000-06:002007-01-21T14:42:00.000-06:00mmm...mutaa and misyar marriages..
I do not know...mmm...mutaa and misyar marriages.. <br /><br />I do not know that much about them.. but for at least the mutaa part... I feel that it contradicts the value of marriage... having a soul mate to feel comfort with... to have mercy and compassion between the two partners, <br /><br />i like your blog. :)dosharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05036726029604983305noreply@blogger.com