Saturday, February 09, 2008

Coming out of the desert

To update you on our family's situation: We finally have another home! We are scheduled to move into an apartment on March 1. My daughter and my grandson just celebrated birthdays. My grandson just turned two. He is such a robust, busy, and chatty child. :-) Most importantly, he is happy.

I'm still working in education. After months of low pay, I moved into a higher-paying interim position with more pay. It came with a lot more responsibility, long hours, and high stress. My employer finally dropped the interim status. I'm still doing the work of the three people who left the department several months ago, but I'm surviving.

Yes, I have my days of frustration, but I never forget how thankful I am to be working. My daughter is in college full-time and working part-time. She is the one who found us a place. Two days ago, she informed me that she bought us living room furniture out of her earnings. We had to leave a lot of our furniture behind when we lost our last home.

I will finally be able to be reunited with my daughter. I can finally liberate her from the situation that she is living in. My grandson's babysitter is now dating my grandson's paternal grandfather - the man who thew my daughter and the baby out of his home shortly after inviting my daughter and the baby into his home. The sitter, who is also a family friend, knew the circumstances under which my kids came to her. I have been paying room and board for the kids since they've been there. This is separate from what she gets paid for childcare.

I will always appreciate that this woman allowed my kids to board with her. However, it's too bad that she doesn't understand that she has humiliated my daughter and betrayed my family.

Once we are settled into our own place, our next move is to find another childcare provider.

Never give up hope. God is good!



Sidhusaaheb said...

Wishing for peace of mind and good health for you and your family (Which also means that I hope your working hours won't be so long, soon enough...)!


Mikiye Creations said...

That is REALLY heavy about your daughter's situation and your childcare provider!

...Much positive thoughts and energy to you.

naomi said...

Sidhusaaheb, thank you for your kind words and for making me smile. Forgive my delay in responding to your comment. It's those long hours again! Hugs to you. :)

Mikiye, thank you for stopping by. Yes, this situation is really heavy - bizarre. You can't make this stuff up! I appreciate the positive thoughts and energy. You are very kind.

AsianSmiles said...

congratulations on your new job and new home! no way but up for you, you have such a good heart :) i'm so happy for you.

Naomi said...

AsianSmiles, thank you. It's great to get my life back. Words cannot express my admiration of my daughter - for her strength, perseverance, and inclination to always take the high road.

It's wonderful to hear from you.

Mobashir Ahmed said...

I appreciate your determination and the optimistic approach.The same holds good for your daughter who loves and cares for you so much.

EXSENO said...

Hooray, hooray! I'm so happy for you both. I didn't bookmark you so I lost track of you for awhile. Found you by browsing my old comments. So glad to read the good news. You have been on my mind often.

naomi said...

MOBASHIR and EXSENO: It's so very kind of you to take the time to care and to leave your comments.

MOBASHIR, forgive the delay in responding to you. I was moving on the day you left it and had a lot going on at work and personally.

EXSENO! I think of you often. You are such a giving spirit. Believe it or not, my family has gone through a lot for the last year that I haven't even documented in this space.

First of all, let me say that it is SO NICE to be living with my daughter and grandson again. You just don't know! Secondly, the workplace has presented more challenges than my private life, if you can believe that. In fact, I'd venture to say that the dysfunctional work environment directly impacted my personal life.

For a long time, I was spending 110 hours each two-week pay period in the office. That didn't count the time I worked from home or the fact that I'm expected to be on call 24/7. My boss is, in effect, the CEO. I don't get additional compensation. So it shouldn't come as a surprise to you that my family life is not balanced.

But let's emphasize the positive. I'm getting my life back, and I'm with my kids. I have not blogged for a long time, and I REALLY want to! I continue to get strength from the people who visit this space.

As always, you have my heart-felt thank you! ((HUGS))

EXSENO said...

I had a job that I was salaried and I was on call 24/7 too, without any extra compensation for it. It's not worth it. But I know right now you have to stick with it. I am so glad that you are together again and your daughter is going to school, that's great.

I am going to post a few more of my grandsons poems on my next post, but if you can find the time read this essay that he wrote in the 9th grade last year. It's fantastic. The post is titled.
'IT'S OVER , STILL I VENT' I posted it on February 18th.
The essay in the post is titled
'Genocide: Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow'

I had posted it when he first wrote it and everyone loved it, and again a second time to vent about the 'D' that he got for it. His tenth grade teacher wants to see it because she can't believe that he could get a 'D' for anything that he writes. Wait tell you read why he got the 'D' Even though it was very well written and she knew those were his words and that he did it on his own.